Justice in Social Relations
Marriage: Part (II)
Relationships in the West
That is why we notice that Islam emphasized the need
of moral and religious commitment in the husband's personality: If a
person with satisfying religious and moral attitudes comes to seek your
daughter in marriage accept. (Because morals will make him
humanitarian while piety will make him fear Allah and would not be unjust
to his wife). If you do not, there will be great mischief on earth and a
great trouble The same thing goes to the wife, A man came to the
Messenger and asked him: Whom should I marry" and the Messenger (p.)
said:” Marry a woman who is religious". (who lives the morality
and commitment of religion.) This is the Islamic line. Therefore the man
who wants to get married should have built himself as a human being as
one of the necessary conditions. He should also be seeking to please
Allah in everything he does. The same thing goes with respect to
polygamy. Allah demands that the man who marries more than one wife
should be just in providing equally, because some men might marry two or
there without having sufficient financial resources to provide for them.
That is why it has been said that justice here is in spending.
Allah says: if you do not have enough resources to
provide for more than one wife, then you have to marry one woman only.
Justice is demanded in a field that man can achieve, but not in emotions
for one cannot control whom his heart inclines to; it is not in the hands
of man. But at the same time the husband should not neglect his wife:
Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is
your ardent desire: But turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to
leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air. Do not abandon her,
and leave her unmarried and not divorced at the same time. Marriage is
not a reflection of the mood. It is a humanitarian decision taken after a
thorough and practical study, through which the man does not think about
himself only but also about the woman.
Talking about polygamy is very long. It is based on
the general human needs that Islam instituted to satisfy, since it could
be a solution to both the woman and the man.
If we suppose that it is a negative state for the
first wife, it is a positive one, as far as the second wife is concerned.
It does not take into consideration the emotional
aspect only but also the practical aspect of people needing one another.
We notice that in the West there is a law than bans having more than one
wife, but the illegal relationships are permissible and a person can have
several sexual relations. In some Western countries the woman who has
established an illegal relationship would be given the same rights as a
wife, including half of the man's properties.
This means that the Western law has limited the legal
relationship to one wife, but it permitted an indefinite number of
Furthermore, there is in the West now what is called
gay marriage with the male marrying another male and the female marrying
a female, and it is instituted in the law.
As for Islam, it has based things on what benefits man
and not what corrupts him: Does He not know, Who
created? And He is the Knower of the subtleties, the Aware
O ye who believe! give your response to Allah and His
Messenger, when He calls you to that which will give you life;
that is on what builds life on the basis of balance and righteousness.
This is one of the laws of life. There is not what is
100% good or 100% evil. For example: before this hall was built we had
more light and air but less protection and warmth. But now light and air
have become less but protection and warmth have increased. The same thing
goes for all matters in life.
Before marriage the single person would feel that he
is free, but when he is married he would satisfy his needs, but new
problems would start to appear. They question thee
about strong drink and games of chance. Say: In both is great sin, and
(some) utility for men; but the sin of them is greater than their
usefulness. If the benefit of something is greater than its harm,
then it is halal, and if the benefit is less then it is haram, but there
is nothing that is all benefit or all harm.