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Behavior and the Source of Aggression
Aggression is a dangerous and harmful
behavior which man acquires in negative conditions he passes through
during childhood or even in later stages. Aggression may
have other reasons, resulting from physical or mental diseases.
How does an aggressive child become aggressive?
Is aggression an innate
trait in a child’s behavior?
Is it a natural expression of the overflow of energy and the need to
prove it? Is an aggressive child considered psychologically sick?
A. M. (housewife) gave birth to her child ten years after her
As a result, he became the pampered
child who received excessive care – the fact that was reflected on
his behaviour: he wants others to satisfy all his desires & he can’t
stand any rejection to his demands.
His mother says : «if once I don’t fulfill his desires, he will
start screaming and continue doing so to the extent that
I become afraid that he might hurt himself».
So, I got so worried about him and started to offer him what he
Psychologists differ in defining child’s aggression.
One of the definitions they gave in that «it is an expression
of the will of power and the desire for control».
Aggression is a
substitutional behavioral activity
that man does to inflict harm on others either by verbal mocking or
by physical pain.
Aggression is a behavior acquired by learning.
A child learns to respond to different attitudes either by
being aggressive or adaptive.
Scientists believe that behavior is acquired according to the nature
of the influencing factors of the environment a child lives in.
If an environment is void of quarrelling, anger, hot-temper,
and aggression, a child develops peaceful habits and conservative
parents’ way in dealing with their children has a great impact on
acquiring an aggressive behavior or avoiding it. By encouraging their children to prove themselves
without hurting others,
parents help their chiildren to maintain themselves and their
Psychoanalysts believe that a child’s agitation is usually
accompanied by a conflict between feelings of love and hate to the
other person who represents his mother.
If the mother satisfies her demands, he will feel that she is a good
person, but if she is late in fulfilling his need, threatens him, or
shouts at him, she will become a bad figure to him.
Child’s aggression is, therefore, associated with his
relationship with his mother.
Frustration and troubles within this relationship arouses his anger
Thus aggressive behavior is a phenomenon that appears in the child’s
early stages. He starts
kicking and flicking objects, and sometimes he beats, curses,
threatens or despises others.
An aggressive child in naughty and indifferent to what will happen
to him and agitated, he is uncooperative, easily affected and
agitated, and noisy.
Psychologists note that the symptoms of an aggressive child that are
supposed to last for at least six months are the following:
A child who steals
more than once.
A child who lies
continuously (not only to escape a physical punishment or attack).
A child who
participates in making fires.
A child who is
absent from school without excuses.
A child who
destroys other’s properties.
A child who hurts
and tortures animals.
A child who is
cruel to others and inflicts physical harm on others.
Psychologists also point out that the reasons of an aggressive
behavior as follows :
Gender: the outcome of researches,
made in this respect, has proved that male aggressiveness is more
direct, visible, and physical than female aggressiveness.
This does not mean that males are more aggressive than females,
but females show aggressiveness indirectly, invisibly, and most of
the times, verbally, the different expectation of civilizations and
the social practices of males and females might bring forth such
Family: some psychologists believe that aggression is a behavior acquired from
the environment, especially the family for instance, a child becomes
obstinate and aggressive if his mother is hot-tempered, and fails to
converse and discuss
various issues with him.
Television: Scientists conclude that action movies a child sees on TV negatively
affect his behavior, (imitation and isolation). It is shown that children who watch action movies more than
others become more aggressive.
Aggression continues to affect the child’s behavior until he becomes
an adolescent and then an adult.
This means that a child imitates the behavioral patterns, which he
continuously sees. If
these patterns are aggressive and negative, his conduct becomes
Another reason for aggression is frustration. If a child’s desires
are not fulfilled and his needs are not satisfied, he becomes
Feeling deficient because of a physical defect, a repeated
failure, or being of
poor achievement in school , a
child turns to be aggressive as a substitute to prove himself and
thus to attain, a social rank.
Jealousy in considered as one of the most important reasons, which
pushes a child to take revenge of his brothers, friends or those who
deprived him of his rights.
Over Criticism: Children who feel that their activities are
constantly watched, and they are overly ordered, restrained, or
criticized are more declined for aggression in their relations with
Educators affirm the necessity of differentiating between courage,
and aggression,and some parents are wrong in believing that a child
needs to be strong, courageous, and able to control others while
proving himself no matter how he acts and what he does; such parents
are to blame because they reinforce this attitude in their children.
Scientists warn that parents should not be tolerant with the
child’s aggressiveness against others.
They emphasize the importance of applying the principles of
reward and punishment in order to make him feel that such a behavior
in wrong, rejected, and unfavorable, and thus guiding him to behave
properly and get rid of violence.
Family troubles that involve beating and quarrelling , reinforce,
the child’s aggressive behavior, especially if parents do not show
any concern to upright their children’s aggressive behavior, showing
them its disadvantage